Planning a wedding is time-consuming and requires considerable effort.
You may have spent months, even years, preparing for your perfect big day, and carefully choosing your green products and services. And the bulk of this work usually falls on the bride. The result is a day to which a great deal of expectation is attached.
The anticipation of a wedding can be delightful, but can also bring stress and worry. In my experience, the best advice I can give is to relax on the day and go with the flow. Small things may go wrong – a guest might be late or you may mark your dress – but these tiny annoyances are unimportant. The reason you are holding a wedding is to be married; the party is a nice aside. So be happy, smile, relax into your day and enjoy every minute, as it will fly past in no time.
Keep your sense of humor
A bride once phoned me the day before her wedding in an absolute panic. She was beside herself: something terrible had happened, and she had no idea what to do.
It turned out that her dog had eaten all her artisan chocolate favours, handmade boxes and all. This was a lifelong friend, so I instantly knew what to do. I laughed. And the minute I laughed, so did she. In that moment she realised that this wasn’t the end of the world; it wouldn’t stop the wedding. New favours were made, the guests loved the story, and we still laugh about it to this day.
On-the-day delegation is an important part of pre-wedding planning. If you are employing the services of an wedding planner, you won’t need this, but if not, it helps to have friends on standby for specific tasks. Write each person a list so they understand what is required. If they are responsible for checking that suppliers have arrived, make sure they have the correct contact details.
Husband and wife
After the ceremony, try to have at least ten minutes alone together away from the hustle and bustle of the party. You will be entertaining your guests for the rest of the day so programme in time that is just for the two of you.